How often do you give yourself a communication checkup?
Communication is a part of our daily relationship with our spouse, yet we rarely take the time to check ourselves in this area. As wives, especially if we are also mothers, we tend to juggle a lot of things throughout the day and week. Nurturing good communication with our husband is set aside and rarely considered.
However, it is important to constantly keep our communication in check so that we are not blindly sinking ourselves and damaging the lines of communication within our marriage.
The book of Proverbs is filled with wisdom. As a woman, these three verses really spoke to me. I try to keep them in consideration when communicating with my husband.
- Proverbs 19:13b – “A wife’s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain.”
- Proverbs 25:24 – “It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house with a quarrelsome wife.”
- Proverbs 21:19 – “It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.”
All three of those comparisons are so eye opening and convicting. I’m sure none of us want our husbands to think of us in this light! So the question is: What are you doing to steer your communication in the right direction?
Here are some other reminders I like to follow to help keep my communication with my husband in check:
- There is no need to rush a response. James 1:19 advises us to be “quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.”
- Be gentle and soft with my words, my body language, and my attitude. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
- Continually feed my heart, mind, and soul with His wisdom. Proverbs 31:26 says, “She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teachings of kindness is on her tongue.”
- Don’t hold grudges, as this leads to negative build up towards your spouse. James 5:9 says, “Do not grumble against one another, brothers, so that you may not be judged; behold, the Judge is standing at the door.”
Our outward responses are a direct reflection of the present status of our relationship with the Lord. We must be diligent in filtering and restraining our words, as these come from our thoughts; our thoughts come from our heart, and our heart is a direct reflection of our relationships with the Lord.
Two practical tips you can put into practice right now to bless your husband with your communication:
- When you catch yourself starting to nag, criticize, or about to start a sentence with any negative undertone – stop right there and consider your words.
- Be intentionally respectful, in a non-sarcastic-obviously-trying-to-be-respectful kind of way. This may take work to achieve if you don’t currently practice it. I’d like to encourage you then to pray about this daily and work diligently toward this goal.
What are any practical tips to blessing your husband in your communication?
About the author:
Marlene is a wife to an amazing husband and a mom to three kiddos. Her days are spent making her home a haven for her family, and homeschooling their kiddos between hugs and snuggles. You can find her blogging at A Diligent Heart.